Is it right to say introverts speak so little?
One of our website members asked me about introverts being less talkative. He said: “I don’t talk much even when I have to. I become distressed. What should I have to do?
Well, first I have to separate these two because they are two related subjects which are not the same.
There is a difference between introversion and taciturn.
Most people say I am introvert and I don’t talk very much. It’s not like that necessarily. Not all introverts speak so little. These two concepts are not the same. We might see an introvert who talks enough or even is one of the greatest speakers. If we look at the wrong understanding of taciturn, what does it mean? It means we don’t talk when we have to. Taciturn is a positive adjective. When we need to talk from time to time, we do. But if you mean introverts speak so little, you can’t talk a lot because you are introvert, it’s disputable.
Is it good or is it bad to be an introvert?
Generally, I have to say that learning skills have a circle like this:
When you talk, your statement will be better -> when your statement gets better, you talk more-> When you speak, your statement will be better -> when your statement gets better, you talk more->
This circle keeps going and going until it reaches to its maximum speed.
But on the contrary, as we read on “introvert personality type“, we have this circle too:
When you talk in a bad way, you rather talk less-> when you talk less, your skill weakens-> when your skill weakens, you talk less-> when you talk less, you can’t learn.
What is the solution?
The best solution is that we have to put ourselves in that position and situation.
It means we have to try and use any opportunity, simple or complicated, to talk anyway and any time.
For example, imagine you want to do a simple task like asking an address. Some shy and introvert people might not even do this simple job. You tell yourself: “I am going to ask two people.” It means you make a situation for yourself. This practice will take time.
It’s not a one-day practice. You won’t get rid of this problem over one night and one practice. You have to try harder every day so that you get over it and it’ll get easier for you.