Do smart people tend to lie more?
If we take a test, everyone says it is terrible to lie. But when it comes to taking actions, everyone lies. Let me tell you some examples:
1- Someone told me that his brother asks to borrow some money from him and he always says “no, I don’t even though I have.” this is a lie.
2- Someone wants to come to your house as a guest, and you are not in the mood. So you say “Sorry, we are not home.”
3- A clothes seller wants to sell his merchandise, but he sees how tall your dress is. So he says: “It’s OK. Wash it, and it’ll be short”. Or the buyer complains about the dress to be short, and the seller says: “it’s OK. Wear it. It’ll be loose and tall in time”. They all are lies.
4- Imagine you want to go out with your friends for one night without your wife. Either you will have a guilty feeling or your wife makes you have it. So you lie and say you stuck in traffic.
I saw research once which I seriously don’t know where I have seen it because it was a really long time ago. In this research, the researchers said smart people don’t lie so much because they know all about the consequences. They have to match many other sentences to make harmony between the lies they had told before. So they see that it’s not worth it. They also are afraid of the possibility of getting caught.
Smart people are aware of the challenges the lies have. Liars think about what to say and how to say it all the time. They have to be careful about to whom they are talking. Are they supposed to tell this to that person? Or to the other one? It’s very confusing.
Some people only see what’s in front of them. They think lying will help them at the moment. They don’t think about the consequences and the chain of actions and reactions that will happen in the future.
You can never lie to someone and get away with it. You may feel relieved at the moment, but what will you feel the second after it?
Let me tell you an example. It may be funny, but it’s a similar situation. Imagine your baby is crying. What’s the easiest way to silence her? Yes. You can kill her. But what will you feel then?
Another way to silence children is to hit them. Then say: “next time, I hit you harder.” When they cry again, you hit them harder and say: “didn’t I tell you to be quiet?”
They may become silent at the time, but after several times, you will face a rude child who stands before you and says, “it didn’t even hurt” after you hit her.
Another way to silent a kid is to threaten them. Some parents say: “I won’t buy you that toy anymore.” Or worse; They threaten their children with the police or a tall and fat neighbor they have: “I call the police,” “I will call the big bad neighbor to come and eat you”.
These are the short-term version of solving the problem. Another example is about the clothing seller.
The seller may lose his client because he told the truth, but what happens next? A few years later?
Imagine you go shopping. You choose a T-shirt, and the seller warns you: “if you wash it, it will be tight.” You say: “OK, then give me a larger one.” He says that he is sorry because he doesn’t have a larger one. This way you leave the shop and the seller will lose his customer, but you completely trust him. not only you will buy from him another time, but you also introduce this honest man’s shop to your friends and family.
One of your friends come late to a meeting. You call him and ask about it. He knows how late he will be, about 20 minutes but he says: “I will be there in 5 minutes”.
What will a smart person say? He knows he arrives in 20 minutes, but he says 30 to be more trustworthy and make his friend happier.
Smart people talk about their bad features. In my courses, the first day is the day which the students can leave the class and take back their money. I act as a bad-tempered person that day. I start talking about some bad qualities of our course. Talking about bad features reduces expectations — this way, people won’t expect anything from you. I tell myself: “let’s have two right students instead of having two more participants with more money”.
The next day we will have a great, joyful class with the right students who chose to be in my class from the bottom of their heart.
I hope you learn to be honest. Being honest means being smart. The best policy is to be honest because you are relieved that nothing terrible will happen in the future.