you probably have seen people who attract the others while talking, telling a story, etc. and when they have public speaking, the audience sticks to the chairs and listens. These kinds of people have learned how to be a professional public speaker.
We call them people whose words are charismatic. It’s not the same for us. when it comes to talking to others, it’s like we are under pressure. We mostly speak when it’s an obligation. It’s not good.
We have to learn charismatic words. Let me answer the one-million-dollar question: are communication skills natural or learned? Do amazing public speakers naturally professional or do they learn?
Some people are naturally good talkers and you enjoy their words even if they are simply telling a story. But there are some who practice to be an excellent public speaker.
Now, let’s go for 4 steps of learning communication skills:
1- Unknowing disability
This is the worst situation. Sadly, most people are like this. it means you who want to learn communication skills, know nothing and can’t do anything.
2- Deliberate disability
The second step is when you can’t do anything but you know about this disability. It is good because you seek answers and solutions which lead you to the third step.
3- Deliberate ability
Here, you learn how to communicate, use your body language, facial expressions, and nice words. Now you have learned but you need to notice your moves and expressions so that you don’t forget because you’re still at the beginning of your training.
4- Unknowing ability
Now you have a good public speaker who doesn’t notice himself and his moves. When you are so good at speaking you don’t need to think about what to say and do next. The nice words, expressions, and body language are accurate and correct automatically. Here, you can say you have become a professional public speaker.
Stewart Brand talks about learning layers in his book “How buildings learn?“.
The upper layers are simple to change and the bottom layers are deeper and harder.
The first layer is the information. For example, when I say it’s cold in here, it’s a statement, news which keeps you informed. The communication happens here but when it comes to public speaking which needs specific methods, the information is not enough.
Imagine I am teaching you how to play basketball. I am only giving you information. You will know how to play it but you can’t actually do it because the information is not enough to learn something. You need to train, practice and work hard.
Communication skills are in the middle of these layers so with enough information and practice, you can get what you want and become a professional public speaker.
Which words do we have to use?
Many people things we have to use hard words when we say speak nice and use interesting words. No! you don’t need to be someone else and use difficult words.
Imagine some of your friends and your family are sitting in the first raw in your presentation. the moment you see they are looking at you shockingly, like “who is this person and why is he talking like this?”, it means you are far away from who you really are.
When you see you face some troubles when you are being yourself, try to change. Do not become someone else to impress others.
In “The words that work” written by Frank. I. Luntz, he says not to use difficult words because you don’t have to use the kind of words that others won’t understand to show how great you are. You need to be impressive by using simple words so that everyone can understand you.
Another thing is to use words that the audience can use their imagination. That’s why we bring examples and tell stories.
Words have to be suitable for the audience. If I speak like this with kids, they will leave the salon immediately. I can’t talk to the adults the way I have a presentation for kids. The same goes for doctors, engineers, etc.
You can read “The best ways to use the right words in public speaking” for more information about words.