How to be an attractive talker?
In “I am boring to talk to” we explained its reason. We might be one of these boring people so we have to have proper speaking skills to be an attractive talker and we have to pay attention to some essential notes which we point out to them soon.
You have to remember that being an attractive talker is not always about public speaking and presentations. We can use beautiful talking styles in any field even in small daily talks. No one likes to experience this image:
We all want to be an attractive talker to transfix our audience. In this article, we tell you what to do so that we can attract everyone’s attention.
How can we talk attractively?
The first step is not to be boring in conversations! We have to avoid all forbidden points in presentations and daily talks. I suggest you read “I am boring to talk to.”
If we want to talk attractively, we have to learn how to speak properly first
If you want to know how to be an attractive talker, you have to learn speaking skills. Then you have to learn a few points:
1- Speak briefly
If you have the best topic in the world and you talk much, you reduce its value. By talking briefly, we can attract people. If you have a presentation, do not talk non-stop for 60 minutes. Don’t forget that if gold bricks scattered on the ground like sand, it wouldn’t have the same value.
2- Take action
To know how to talk briefly, you have to record some of your talks with your friends and listen to it very carefully, write the script down.
See which parts you can delete. Try to present it again. Do this a few times so that you reach a script that doesn’t need removing. After 4 or 5 times unconsciously you can speak briefly and this way you can be an attractive talker.
3- Talk about the audience to become an attractive talker
Some people make this unforgivable mistake during the talk that they only speak about their interests and preferences. Speakers must think which topic entertains the audience not themselves. We have to notice their will. When we want to talk, we have to take their wishes and intentions into our consideration and talk about them. People always like to be spoken to about their issues and their solutions.
4- Reduce the amount of content
Mr. T.J. Walker explained about it in one of his seminars in Iran. He said never present more than four topics in your presentations. Do not repeat this general mistake. Talking about many issues in a short presentation doesn’t make you an attractive talker. Explain your topic entirely from one or two angles. If you practice your presentation a few times before, you see the high amount of content bothers you. So the audience will be upset and bored too.
5- Tell stories to be an attractive talker
We have to find good stories and use them in our talks. Stories have a substantial impact on others. If we use them well, we can be sure that the audience will enjoy it.
If you are not sure this is a good story, you have to notice the fact that it must have been attractive enough because you could keep it in mind for this long.
Enlist the stories and events that happened to you and practice them a few times. Record your voice and see if you tell your story attractively or not.
6- Proper and professional moves
Another way to be an attractive talker is if you have the right movements and motions. It doesn’t matter if you are in a presentation, in a public place, at a party with your friends or even telling a story for your wife! You have to have proper motions. For example, you may need to come down from the stage and walk between the audience in a presentation.
7- Have a good melody to be an attractive talker
Even by assisting all the options we mentioned, you can’t say 100% that the audience will listen to you. If you don’t have a good melody, I assure you that the audience will be bored. Then and only then after you made sure you have a suitable manner and tune, you can be an attractive talker.
Action plan for speaking skills:
To practice, listen to people with good melody and manners very carefully. This person can be a speaker, an executor on TV, an actor,…). Notice the way they talk and see when they change their tune, how they open and close their mouth. This way you can improve your skills to be an attractive talker.