How to get on the right path to our goals and what to do with our mistakes?
If you see around you, you notice many people who have big dreams. Every new year they choose some great purposes for themselves but they hardly ever can reach them because they don’t know the right path.
We read and see everywhere that to determine a purpose you have to write it down and try to reach it from that very moment.
But no! You may not know what info is necessary for you. You don’t know what talents you have and what makes you happy. Perhaps you missed something, and it caused your delay.
For example, if you choose to go right towards the big goal, you will get confused and discouraged. In conclusion, instead of drowning in searching for the right answers, you find yourself looking up to the others.
Choosing the right path
Imagine you are in a hospital and you see a doctor and her patients. You think wow how much does she earn. Suddenly you decide to change your course or job. But you have to pay attention that you might not have the same talents and inspiration. So you’ll fail. You don’t have to get carried away. You just wait and think to make the right decision.
We can’t make people be determined. Will is inside all of us, but everyone has a certain amount of it. If we waste it and choose the wrong path, we can’t reach it when we find the right way.
Somethings are very obvious, but we can’t see them, like the keys we think we have lost, but they are on the table right in front of us. We go to the kitchen (wrong place) because we imagine we might have left it there.
We search everywhere and kitchen for many times in particular but when we sit on the sofa exhausted, we see the keys on the table, and we say: oh, why didn’t I see it sooner?”
The answer is that there is nothing wrong with your eyes. You missed it because you looked at the wrong places.
So let’s see from the right angle to be able to choose the right path.
Don’t consider yourself aimless. The problem is that you waste your will in the wrong path unconsciously.
If you can just use your will for the right path, you can be a perfect decision maker.
Changing your purpose in the middle of the way
The purposes you choose might change in the middle of the way or even when you are so close to it.
Imagine learning another language is your goal but you like to learn it while you are in a relationship with some people with that language. After a while, you won’t see it as a purpose. You will change it and make it a more significant purpose. You choose to study that language at university.
Let me tell you another example. Perhaps you love to travel abroad every once in a while. It is enjoyable.
You will say it requires money and time which I don’t have, so I probably can’t go.
I asked some people about this. They have traveled abroad many times. I asked them how beautiful other places are and what is the difference between cultures and hobbies.
They said: “going abroad was one of my goals once. I went to some places, but now I am not so interested in doing that. I prefer to be at my home.”
It’s interesting. They haven’t gone to all the countries, but they changed their purpose anyway.
Goals and purposes are not stable through the lifetime. So try not to go towards the enormous goals because you might not know what exactly your goals are.
But be sure that by thinking and considering all your options you can figure out what little purposes you have now and try to reach them. In other words, you may not know what will happen at the end of the journey, but you certainly know what the next step is.
Your next step is all that matters now. Determine it and walk towards it.
Some ways to build self-confidence:
As we said before self-confidence is a general concept. Ask yourself these questions to know in which department you need to develop self-confidence:
1- How would you know that you have the self-confidence you need?
2- in which situation do you need more self-confidence?
3- In which case you already have self-confidence, and you don’t need to develop it?
4- When you have self-confidence in a situation, what thoughts come to your mind?
5- When you have self-confidence, how you react?
6- What is your next step in things you need to be more self-confident to do them?
This article can be useful: “how to build self confidence“
Mistakes are inevitable. Sometimes they cause by our doubts, sometimes we don’t have doubts but we choose the wrong way anyway, and sometimes our path is right but we are doing something wrong at that very moment.
It’s best if you share your mistakes with someone you trust. Ask for their counsel. It’s natural to choose the wrong steps and make mistakes.
But we’ll get into trouble when we confront some delicate issues. Some mistakes are irreparable.
What should we have to do now?
Let’s try not doing it again. We have to learn from our mistakes and others’. This way we can see some progress.
People pile their mistakes, make a big deal out of it and call it DESTINY.
Are we in charge of our mistakes?
Let’s be honest. We have to find the cause of our mistake and if it is ours, eliminate it. If it’s not our fault, then we are not responsible for that.
Don’t justify your mistakes when you make one. When you do, you pretend it’s not your fault and you don’t accept it. Therefore, you don’t try to make it up, and you start exonerating yourself instead of taking your responsibility. This way you will repeat that mistake over and over again.
Justifying your mistakes is like out of a frying pan into a fire.
Don’t blame others when you don’t have money, you hadn’t studied well, you don’t have a job, you made someone upset and disappointed, and you couldn’t get what you deserve. Accept you made some mistakes on the way and try to change it, make things better.
Don’t ever say the circumstances, my parents, the environment, my teachers, the government, unemployment and so on. It seems like everyone is to blame but you! This way you are always going to be upset and sad, thinking everyone used you and you couldn’t defend yourself. This way you always feel you are a victim and this negative feeling will eat you from inside out.
To sum up, choose your right path to your goal.
Move step by step.
Goals may change in the middle of the way, and It’s okay.
Develop your self-confidence in departments that you are weak.
If you made a mistake, accept it and try to make it up instead of justifying and bringing excuses.