How to say no to these 12 things today?
One of the most important communication skills is to learn how to say no. In previous articles, we talked about ways to say no. We have been in many situations where saying no was so hard for us and we said yes even though we preferred to reject.
In this article, we explain 12 different occasions in which you can learn how to say no after you practice. Have you remembered how many times you said yes by mistake?
These occasions include some requests that take your time and make you ignore your schedule or even communicating with people you are not fond of. Sometimes you give up and accept these requests.
Saying no in the right time and the right place
Not only doing it in your life saves your time, but also it can prevent you from being in trouble. If you say no to the requests you don’t like, you will love yourself more.
“No” is a sad but brave word to say. Saying no shows how honest and courageous you are in result, the others will respect you more.
How many times saying no caused pain, discussion, and hopelessness?
But you have the right to say no to:
-whatever you don’t like to do
– whatever annoys you
– whoever tries to manipulate you
– believes that are not true in reality.
Say no to:
1- The social pressures
We were taught to say yes, since we were a child. The society wants us to be polite, and people think politeness is to say yes to every request.
Ignoring yourself makes others use you and think that they have the right to ask inappropriate requests. Here, you don’t have to let yourself give up to their unreasonable request. Here are three ways to say no politely to these people:
A- Accept that you will be under pressure by saying yes to all their requests.
B- Define a limitation and boundary for yourself and don’t go further even if someone asks you something.
C- Stop doing it after a while.
2- Negative talks
Sometimes we are involved in negatives thoughts and interpretations such as the all bad news on television. Try to avoid negative sentences such as:
How can he do it for me? Why do you look at me like a stupid person? Do I look ugly? How can I stay in my job? Am I able to pay the bills?
Most of us make people feel hopeless with these words without even wanting to. Try to get away from these talks and thoughts in your daily life.
3- People who are not beneficial for you
You won’t discover your talents and creativity by saying yes to people. People who try to control you, so you act as they want, prevent you from improvements, and lie to reach their goals.
It’s a fifty-fifty situation: either people around you support you, or you are surrounded by people who push you into a well which there is no way you can get out of.
Jealousy is not natural or inevitable. It’s a feeling that happens when you see the things someone has, and you don’t, the wish you had, but someone else is living it.
Stay away from this feature and walk on a path that only takes you forward, to your success.
Perhaps you feel no one will love you until you have a billion dollars. No, accept your differences and be aware of your capabilities. Don’t feel weak! Take action today!
5- Limitations and boundaries
The meaning of your life is what you do every day. You wake up every morning, go to work, and come back tired and hopeless. This way, you will suffer from insomnia and other problems. Then you have to take some pills.
Release yourself of limitation for yourself and your life because every boss can say “you are fired,” just as easily. Read the biography of people who are not like that. The choices you make are what create your life. Focus on your goals and write them every day no matter what are they. The important thing is to prepare your mind and body.
6- How to say no to negative thoughts?
I woke up every day at 3 a.m. with nightmares and negative thoughts. I was very distressed. No, none of my thoughts at 3 a.m. happened in reality. It’s always like this!
To face the problems, I always tell myself that I’m tired now, and I need to sleep. None of my thoughts has happened.
You can try and say these things too.
7- Rude and negative people
Always ask yourself, how do you feel when you are around this person? Do I feel great about myself? If your answer is “No,” then perhaps you should get away from that person.
The important thing is not to get involved with them. Don’t let their negative thoughts and behavior extend because it’s not good for society.
8- Bad luck
We all like to blame luck for everything! Sometimes we are looking for the chance, and sometimes it seeks us. Sometimes we have it, and sometimes we are waiting for it to leave us alone.
Chance is something that you can have only once in your life. You need to learn how to say no to people who blame luck for their mistakes.
9- How to say no to negative energies?
You may have seen people who filled their heart and mind with sadness. Negative energy is all around them. We all know that our thoughts, emotions, and words are filled with energy.
People who have negative energy try to tempt us and see our reactions to those temptations.
They don’t want to be alone, so they try to pull us toward them. It’s important to say no to these negative energies whenever you felt they are draining you.
Imagine you are at a train station. A train is coming toward you. You want it so badly to be your train, but it’s not. It passes and leaves you behind. There are other trains. You jump from side to side, make a mess to find yours. Your train is behind the others, but you are making a mess so you can’t see it.
You have to know how to say no to your mistakes. Step aside. Let the trains do their jobs. Be sure that yours will be there soon.
11- Untimely death
Most of us have instructions to reach our goals and find our purposes. One of them is preparing a list of our routines and doing them in proper time.
Sometimes it doesn’t matter how much you work, even if you think some people and tasks improve your life. Sometimes doing a small job is what matters.
It may seem a little unexpected but a simple trick to have a long life is not doing the tasks that cause your death.
12- How to say no to impulsive actions and behavior?
Many people believe in: live every moment of your life as it is your last. Who knows? It might truly be.
They are wrong. Many people have small issues, and they make a big deal out of it. They even think about death. Know that your mind is playing tricks on you. Learn how to say no to these thoughts and use every second of your life to reach your goals.
With the help of the ability to say no, good things will happen to you.
You’ll learn to value yourself and your actions. The others will respect you too. By saying no, you can save your soul and body from damage.
Saying no helps us to be independent.
There are still people around us who try to control and protect us by making a fence around us and reduce our capabilities.
Remember that saying no is an art and the ability to say no is a skill!