how to stop being shy?
shyness and fear, two killers of public speaking
Shyness and fear are destructive to public speaking that we can delete very quickly. There is always a way to stop being shy and quiet.
Almost most people imagine that it’s only them that have such a fear and they make such a big deal out of it. The way they speak about it is like it’s a big secret and no one has it too! But the truth is that everyone- precisely most people- has this fear and want to stop being shy and quiet.
Some people have trembling hands during public speaking, some gasp and feel blushing, their mouth becomes dry and they forget what they want to say.
We all experience the fear of public speaking and presentations and we are not the only ones. Everyone wants to stop being shy. It’s inclusive enough that the great belletrist and writer, Mark Twain says:
“There are two types of speakers: those that are nervous and those that are liars.”
Fear of public speaking can have many reasons but mostly it’s because we don’t have enough recognition about the subject and 90% of times, it’s the same in public speaking. In public speaking, we don’t know anything about the environment and our brain thinks it’s in jeopardy: we might do something wrong or no one will listen to us and trust us.
What are the reasons for the fear of public speaking?
1- things we have a bad memory of them
2- things we don’t know, and we don’t have an exact image of them
3- acquired fear which we learned from others.
4- Fears of mental disorder and illnesses
Fear of public speaking comes from the first and the second.
It’s good news if you want to stop being shy and overcome this fear because you can alter an unpleasant experience into a wonderful habit by practice.
But the second issue is shyness!
Most people are shy to speak in public! This problem solves even easier than fear. You just have to put yourself in a situation!
How to manage the fear of public speaking?
It’s essential to most of us to manage our fear in public speaking. But because we used to run from our fear since we were a child, we rather not to speak in public instead of improving its skills and it makes us fear more!
The best sentence is: action cures fear and laziness causes it.