Why do we think we are boring to talk to?
Almost all of us had teachers in school that we didn’t understand when their class ends. On the contrary, we had teachers that we were waiting for their classes to end after five minutes of the class. (and of course those classes were so endless, and they never finished).
As we mentioned in “What is speaking skills definition?”, we might be in a position and we are boring to talk to that others are bored of what we are saying, but we don’t even notice it because of our position, superior self-esteem, and other reasons.
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In this article, we want to talk about the reason people think I am boring to talk to and what is its solution.
Why are we boring to talk to?
It can have many reasons that why we are boring! But the best thing to do is to be sympathetic to our audience as much as we can. We have to try to be in their shoes and see why we might be bored by ourselves?
Let me explain boring stories with three scenarios!
The reason I use dear teachers and their classes in my attractive and boring talk scenarios is that we all have experienced it and it’s tangible.
1- Bad-tempered teacher!
We all had bad-tempered teachers. Although they used interesting methods for teaching, we couldn’t enjoy their classes much because they were grumpy.
2- What is the use of these lessons?
We always asked this question: Why do we have to know what the longest river in Russia is. Or what good is in it to solve some math problems in school?
This scenario means if we assume a subject has no use, we don’t pay attention to it.
3- A talkative friend
Even if a dear friend tells an exciting story and it’s boring, we can’t listen to him more than 2 hours for sure because our brain can only process the concepts for 90 minutes. Best thing to do is not put it under pressure and start talking again after a short break.
In these scenarios, we understood why some people say I am boring to talk to. I suggest if you don’t want to be boring to talk to, you can avoid these three factors. Try not to be grumpy and bad-tempered. Take every subject into your consideration. Everything can be valuable someday. Finally, you have to try not to be talkative. People get bored if you talk non-stop. Give it a rest and let people think you are not so boring to talk to.