Sympathy has a significant role in our lives. If we are sympathetic (see the world with a different point of view), certainly we can change it.
In this article, we talk about several important ways to be sympathetic while we won’t judge at the same time.
Sometimes we think everything is as we see. But it definitely is not! These times, when we don’t have the whole information, we look like devastated people. And then we try to judge people.
Now what we have to do?
First, I suggest you become silent three minutes a day!
You probably can’t do it now because you hear noises and many other things. So it’s best to find a quiet place.
This practice will enhance your hearing ability too.
2- Put ourselves in their shoes!
We have to ask ourselves what we would feel if we were them and in their situation? We can ask ourselves if I were him, how would I be? Happy? Sad? Mad? Upset? Especially try this the ones you know. Or you can guess what do they feel when you sit here, and they are talking there in another room. When you hear the sound of their voice, you can guess if they are mad, upset or happy. Then come out and see if you guessed correctly. You can improve step by step.
One of the worst things to judge is to say: what would I do if I were them?
Notice that the previous suggestion was to ask “what would I feel if I were them? (not do).
You are not them to decide what to do. You don’t have the same parent, the same job and the same teachers.
Think of that one event and one sentence of your teacher that changed your life. So you can’t compare your life to others, or decide what to do if you were them. Instead, you can feel what they feel.
3- Elastic band
Buy an elastic band and wear it around your wrist. Whenever you judge someone, pull it and let it go. Yeah, it will hurt. We unconsciously judge, so we have to go to our unconscious mind. It’s not a game. It’s a proven Psychological theory. This way your brain knows that when you judge, it will hurt and you get hit.
I hope we can manage to judge less with the help of these practices.