Positive ways to talk to your child
One of my dear friends says:
My daughter’s birth changed our lifestyle. The change had begun a few years ago when I was dealing with my students. When you are a teacher, you have to know how to talk to your child.
Before my daughter was born, I was a teacher for eight years. Then, I made some new decisions when she was born. During teaching, I read many books about how to talk to your child and tread them.
When my daughter was born, we saw how difficult it is to attend to those methods we have learned from the books. By the time passed, we learned some new techniques that I assure you will definitely work.
The previous paragraphs were the experience of my friend. I asked him about what he learned. I like to share them with you in this article.
Your children talk even when they still can’t speak in your language. One of their ways is crying.
Many times we understand their words, and many other times, we don’t get what they mean.
The real issue is how to:
– talk to your child so that he/she doesn’t cry?
– Start talking to them and give them what they want?
– get them to understand us?
Have you seen the situation where your wife is mad at you or your relationship has weakened? What do women do? Yes, they cry.
Most of our children cry when they don’t have a good relationship with their parents.
Children talk to their parents by crying. They say: “pay attention to me, I am here.”
They cry until they get what they want. So don’t say: “why are you crying for no reason?”
It means we don’t pay attention to them and weakens our relationship with them.
What to do then?
You have to ask yourselves: why your child is crying? How should you talk to your child so that he/she stops crying?
Relaxation and then, explosion
Some parents say that their child is quiet until his/her father comes home or they have guests.
That’s because they need your attention.
You have to see what to do to pay attention to them.
Up to the age of 7, children’s language is playing. You can be kind to them by playing with them.
Some parents say we play, but they start crying again.
The question is:
How do you play with your child?
Do you play available games you like or the ones your child loves?
Do you play with them because you don’t want to see them nag or cry?
We play with our children to talk to them. Children’s language is playing until they turn seven.
If you don’t pay attention to your kids until the age of seven, they will confront some severe problems when they become teenagers.
Make opportunities or lose them?
There is going to be a time for our children that they become teenagers. At that point, they would like to dress, talk, and behave differently. Do you know why?
*To find someone to talk to them, like them and pay attention to them, the very childhood needs.*
How to talk to your child?
Children can understand us when we spend time to play with them. They want to discharge their energy until the age of seven, so they have to play mobility games. They have to run and be excited.
We can’t be kind to our children with mental games and handmade toys.
I suggest you talk to your child for 15 minutes before sleep.
One of the worst things to happen is when your child asks you: “do you love me?”
Parents should see how they treated their children that it caused them to ask this kind of question. When children don’t feel their parent’s kindness and attention, they wonder whether their parents love them or not.
Another worst thought is that we say: “they don’t understand; they are kids.”
It is wrong. Children understand everything. The kids are under your impression since they are in their mothers’ womb until they leave the house.
Instead of saying they don’t understand, we have to analyze our behavior.
Some catastrophic disasters
1- When children get into a fight, who am I siding with?
– Other children, not mine.
2- When your kids start walking, talking, and having a tooth, what is your reaction about it in front of the others?
– She/he bothered me a lot to do so. It was annoying.
3- When you have guests, what do you do to pay attention to your child?
– I pay attention to everyone but my kid.
4- When your child shows one of her artistic works or one of her failures, how do you react?
– Good. It’s good. Well-Done.
How would you feel to hear these words when you have achieved something or failed?
Read this article: Causes of lack of self-confidence
Some secretly talk to patents
If we don’t play with our children, when do we get the chance to do so?
We all are parents who envy their childhood and want to go back to that time and be kids again, but we can’t make an excellent childhood for our own kids.
If you give them what they want by talking to them and playing, they learn that crying is not the only way to gain things.
Try to do these three:
1- Put yourself into your children’s shoes and see the world through their eyes
2- Start talking to them by being kind
3- Remember that kindness means playing. The games they like to play, not us.
Seize your moment.