Greetings may seem a simple task, but sadly we do it all wrong during the days. That’s why we may upset others. Who doesn’t want to know some friendly and polite ways for greetings?
We have to try to use the right words instead of negative ones.
In this article, we discuss how should our greetings be to have effective communication.
We make them upset instead of greetings.
Once one of my friends called me and started nagging about me not calling him for so long. He didn’t even ask how I was doing. He said: “why haven’t you called? It’s been a long time. am I that worthless?”
I apologized, and our conversation was over. After that, I wondered what it was? It wasn’t a great talk. He just wanted to hear me apologizing. I did, and he was relieved.
That’s not a proper greeting on the phone.
We have to consider that as humans we have obsessions, jobs, and dilemmas in our lives, so we don’t have to expect others to call us whenever we want them to.
We can say this when we call someone who hasn’t called us for a long time: “I guess you’ve been busy. I hope I’m not interrupting something, but I was wondering if we could talk for a moment.”
It will show how much you care about them and of course, won’t upset them.
Sometimes we ask some questions that we don’t care about the answers. For example, we ask about how their family is doing, or they should say hi to their friend or family for us.
It seems like a recorded file: two people get together to say the exact things all over again. Once I made a joke with one of my friends that said the same thing. He said: “hi, how are you? are you feeling alright?” I said: “Oh! Thanks but I have cancer. Thank you for asking, anyway!”
I said I have cancer, but my friend said: “Oh, good you’re OK.”
See? It has become a routine, repetitive action and reaction because we don’t really listen to what they are saying.
A wise person decides to ask excellent questions instead of repeating the same greetings every time.
Questions that are related to what the other person is feeling.
We can ask how they are and then ask the questions related to their answer. Such as:
– Really? How did it happen?
– Why did it happen?
– What can I do for you?
– How can I help?
This kind of greeting differs you from the others to prevent all these clichés.
You may be wondering: so how can I find these kinds of conversations?
I always say prepare yourself before It happens.
Not being prepared for something is being ready to fail.
Think before you start greeting. Think of proper and beautiful words that come into your mind or you have heard from others. Then use them in your greetings.
Don’t be negative
Another thing I want to ask you is not to use negative words in your greetings.
For example, you’ve probably heard people’s answers when you ask them how they are doing:
– I’m not bad.
– I’ll live.
You may say: it’s really how I feel.
If it is, I strongly suggest you change your lifestyle. My second offer is to read this story of Jesus:
Jesus and his followers passed a dead dog which smelled awful. Someone said: ugh, what a disgusting smell.
Someone else said: ugh, what an ugly scene.
Everyone said something terrible about the dead dog and Jesus said: what sharp and white teeth.
So we can even find something right out of a dead dog, let alone some other things like the way we feel and live.
We always can find positive aspects of our life or others’ and talk about it. We need to try to be positive and don’t use negative questions like:
– Are you tired?
– You seem tired.
– You look awful, what happened?
Try to give energy and avoid negative thoughts and sentences.
I hope the simple sentences and phrases help you to improve your greetings and relationships.