I promise quality world theory will change your life!
If you try to learn effective communication skills, perhaps you get confused about the difference between methods or paradoxes in sources. Sometimes find an idea in one book, and you’ll see a YouTube video rejected that idea! So, if you get confused in these situations, it is OK. in this blog post, I’ll show you one of the best tools in effective communication skills that help you to communicate with others on a more influential and professional way.
This tool is “Quality world.”
What is the quality world?
William Glasser (legendary psychologist and developer of Reality Therapy and Choice Theory) in one of his books, Choice Theory said:
All of us are aware that we live in a world we can see, hear, touch, taste, and smell. We call it the real world or reality. But no two of us perceive in the same, We all perceive a great deal of reality the way we want to perceive it. Optimists and pessimists live in the same world, as do the sane ad the crazy, but each sees it far differently.
Choice theory explains that the reason we perceive much of reality so different from others has to do with another important world, unique to each of us, called the quality world. This small, personal world which each person start to create in his or her memory shortly after birth and continues to create and re-create throughout life, is made up of a small group of specific pictures that portray, more than anything else we know, the best way to satisfy one or more of our basic needs. (I’ll write about basic needs on other posts)
The pictures fall into three categories:
- The people we most want to be with
- The things we most want to own or experience
- The Ideas or systems of belief that govern much of our behavior
Anytime we feel very good; we are choosing to behave so that someone, something or some belief in the real world has come close to matching a picture of that person, thing or belief in our quality worlds.
So, you learn what quality world is, and in the first step, you need to know your quality world or be aware of it.
So please make a list of:
- Ten people who most want to be with.
- Ten things you want to own.
- Five belief in our life, this world or relation between.
- Your plan for the next three years.
- Your favorite pet or animal.
In the next blog posts, I’ll tell you how can we use the quality world in effective communication skills.