Let’s be careful about the words we use
do you agree on the fact that children personality forms when they are seven years old?
You might accept it. But many will disagree and say: it will form then but also can change at other times.
Whatever you agree on, try to imagine you are the teacher of 10-year-old children. Now when they start shouting, making chaos in the class, wouldn’t you change your behavior toward them based on what you believe about their personality forming.
If a child is bringing chaos to the class and we believe their personality forms in that specific time, we say: it’s in his nature, so it’s OK.
If we believe in the fact that his personality has formed and it can be changed, we try to shout at him and punish him because we say: it’s in his nature but let’s control him so he wouldn’t cause more damage.
Only if you believe that human personality is changeable and someone can get the hold of his own life, not his past upbringing, how will we treat each other then?
Change your viewpoint
I was with a teacher named Katherine when I was in Amsterdam. She was a professional teacher who loved her job.
I asked her what does she do when the kids scream. I said: imagine you are teaching, and one of the kids scream at your class with no reason. What will you do?
If you believe human personality forms when they are kids, and it can change at any time, you will choose to quiet the kid and punish him so he wouldn’t do it again.
Katherine said: every shout and scream has a meaning! When someone has an adverse reaction, that person wants to draw attention and doesn’t know its way. I will go to see what’s behind this scream. Is he mad? Or upset?
Can you see how different viewpoints can change our reactions?
There are different mindsets, and if we change the way we see everything, we can make the world a better place.
I hope we all are careful about the words we use. Saying that ’someone’s personality was made is a heavy burden and results in negative reactions.
I am not talking about psychology, our personality, or kids. I simply ask you to change the way you see things!