The fact that how we should use the right words is a very crucial matter because one word can make us seem respectful or quit the opposite.
Words are essential in rhetoric. Imagine you want to call someone. Which word do you prefer to use?
– Excuse me,
I’m sure it depends on to whom you want to talk. For example, if it’s my wife, I’ll go for darling or honey but calling your boss with these words will make the situation awkward.
So what specialties words should have?
What exactly are the right words?
1- Words have to be suitable for the audience
2- Words have to be ideal for ourselves
3- Words have to be suitable for the situation
How many words should we know and learn?
I’ve seen many emails from our website members who ask what words do we have to use when we talk?
I can answer this question with a story:
A man stood by the river. Suddenly someone called out to him for help. He was drowning. The man jumped to the river and saved him.
But before he can feel relieved, he heard two other people shouting for help. He saved them too. But again before he had the time to pull it together he heard three other people calling out for help. He saved them too. He saved many people that day without knowing someone is throwing people to the river not far from where he stood.
Using words are the same. I am not supposed to give you a list of words, and you memorize them to use in your presentations and relationships.
It doesn’t mean we don’t have to use any words. I mean if we forget the words, the problem lays somewhere else.
According to the researches, different cultures and languages have different rate and numbers of words, but generally, normal people can understand almost 12000 words and educated ones about 25000.
In fact, according to the 80/20 act we only use 20% of the words we know (5000 words maximum) so we don’t need to worry about broadening our vocabulary, but we have to try to use the words we know more in our daily lives.
It’s best to have a vocabulary notebook and write the words down to see which one is better for which situation.
Me giving you the right words so that you can memorize and use them in your talks is not doable because the words have to manifest in your mind; also these words can be inappropriate for your personality or your audience but not mine.
We all have to use the right words based on what situation we are and with whom we are talking to.
For example, patients mock their doctors if they speak with my vocabulary and I lose my audience if I talk like a doctor.
So we have to use our vocabulary notebook and write interesting, useful words to use them in our daily lives. Then these words stick to our mind.
Tenses and words
1- Use positive words
Positive words help us to have more energy and make our audience feel better. As we always say people love the ones who make them feel better. So I suggest you use positive words as much as you can. Such as:
• “be kinder to yourself” instead of “don’t be hard on yourself.”
• “remember” instead of “don’t forget.”
• “I’ll try to live healthier” instead of “I won’t smoke anymore.”
2- Try to use names in your sentences
Calling people by their names is one of the effective ways to communicate. For example, instead of this common phrase: “nice to meet you,” you can say “it’s nice to meet you, dear John.”
People will love you more and feel great when you use their names.
Right words list
One of the managers of a large and successful company I was talking to didn’t use the right words. For example, he said “we manufacture similar cars to company X” instead of saying “our company is a serious rival to company X.” or he said “we have cheap cars” instead of saying “we manufacture cars with reasonable price.”
As you can see words are, and you can’t have a friendly chat without using the right words.
Searching for better words
Memorizing the encyclopedia is wrong. The best way is to have a vocabulary notebook to write useful words and phrases come to your mind, and you remember every day.
Our words are potent. People might not get valuable with words, but they can be humiliated.