Speaking skills definition
Speaking skills is the ability to talk at any time and in any situation. When it comes to speaking skills –part from who are you? What is your job? With whom do you speak? And…- you need to use your language, you need speaking skills.
If you want to be sociable, have a good connection with your friends, transfer your means to others and try to make a good impression so that they enjoy talking with you, you have to know everything about speaking skills. First, you must improve your verbal power. You have to use public techniques and practices. You must know to whom you are talking and make them enjoy so that you can reach your goals the way you want.
Be careful: if someone knows the skills to talk, it doesn’t mean he is a good speaker, lecturer or negotiator. If someone has good skills to talk, he has an excellent background to be a fantastic lecturer, negotiator or teacher!
Usage of speaking skills
Speaking skills is such a vast subject that we only mention some of its applications:
1- Public speaking
2- TV presenter and speaker
3- Counselors and psychologists
4- Lawyers for defending and presenting the reasons (and the Judge)
5- For interviews and introducing yourself
6- Interviews for employment
7- Using it to get what is rightfully yours
8- To express your feelings correctly in marriage and emotional relationships.
Blind spots in speaking skills
One strange thing is that all people think they have proper skills to talk and don’t need to learn more. We have to know that we are not the standards and criterion. It’s others around us who decide whether we have right (or at least acceptable) speaking skills or not.
Sadly, the illusion to superior self-esteem about our skills is noticeable. I worked on research which I want to share its result with you:
Studies have shown that most people in society think they are among superiors in their current position. We all have seen others who imagine they are unique and preferable.
I want to refer to Dunning Kruger’s research. The one who won an Oscar in 2000.
In this research, participants answered some questions about math, analysis, grammar, logic, and question like how much did you laugh at this joke? They shared the results to see how they did the test.
The result disparted into 4, and it showed that they all considered themselves as preferable.
More interesting, people who couldn’t answer the questions correctly, misestimated their positions.
Then, researchers have found out that the more educated people are, the more questions they can answer and their accuracy raises.
Sevenson experimented on driving. In this research, they chose 161 students from Sweden and the USA to analyze their driving skills. The result was:
93% of Americans and 69% of Swedish considered themselves in the 50% preferable group and 88% of Americans and 77% of Swedish thought the same in driving safety.
Sadly, this topic is more evident in communication skills and people who are weak in this field claim to have the best communication skills!
But what can we do? They are in a blind spot and don’t have a correct perception for themselves. Not only they don’t have the right skills, but these skills will finally be the death of them.
What is not speaking skills?
Speaking skills are not being talkative, rude or a quick at repartee. It doesn’t necessarily mean to have a good voice.
Speaking skills is not a technique
Sadly, some people teach some simple skills to have a loud voice and think that’s enough. Again, unfortunately, I have to say:
I know many people who have a good voice, but they don’t have proper manners.
In conclusion, speaking skills are about several techniques which can make our voice clear, loud and attractive to present valuable and useful contents.