Maybe you have not reached the position you deserve because your boss shows favoritism. If you feel ignored, be honest with yourself. Make sure your feeling is correct.
Maybe the person that your boss notices more does a better job than you. Perhaps it’s time to try harder.
The real reason
Perhaps your boss treats your colleague better because they share history, so when your boss shows favoritism in this situation, it can be because of routine matters. When you know the reason, you can define if it’s fair or unfair.
66% of employees say that their boss doesn’t even listen to them, and 67% of them mention that the boss hears them out, but he is negligent.
Talk to your boss
Before you talk to your boss, think about it and prepare a clear relaxing discussion.
Don’t judge without knowing everything. If you accuse your boss of favoritism, you lose his trust and credibility in result; he becomes defensive.
It’s best not to mention the fact that you think your boss shows favoritism. Instead, ask him to give you a chance to work more.
Flattery is not a professional way to improves your relationship between you and your boss. It is what cheaters do.
Flatterers try to attract their boss’s attention with pride and fake self-esteem instead of working hard.
And of course, people who try and work harder are always more successful than flatterers.
In your relationship between you and your boss, it’s only credibility and trust that matters. Do not ever ruin that, not at any cost.
Change your point of view.
Be positive when you face problems because it improves your strengths, lessens the pressure and tensions so you can see things more clear. Your mind will be at ease, and you can try harder to solve the problem.
If you say to your boss: “you are wrong,” “why do you say that?”, you only make things worse. You don’t know everything, and you are judging based on your side of the story.
There is no need to be upset or defensive. Listen to what your boss has to say. Sometimes listening is a great activity which makes you understand things that you haven’t before.
Read : “Never judge“
Accept your mistakes
I am sure it’s not easy for anyone to accept their mistakes. It is even hard for your boss who is criticizing you. Try to have the kind of tone and body language so your boss can talk easier about these things.
You must prove to your boss and colleague that you know the reason, and you want to solve this problem. Promise them that you will never make that mistake again.
The most important result of a mistake is not to repeat it.
The things you learn from a mistake are experiences. Not only accepting your mistake doesn’t leave you behind, but also causes your improvement and gives you many opportunities.
Perhaps your new colleague had a new idea, and you didn’t
If you don’t have new ideas about your workplace and job, there might be no proper treatment for you. Remember, no matter how much you follow the rules, it doesn’t matter if you don’t have creative ideas.
Accept that you can’t control your boss and colleagues.
Sometimes, we ‘don’t have control over some things. They may be events, other people, or inappropriate timing. Analyze your problems very carefully. Divide the ones you can control from the ones you can’t. This way, you see things vividly and find the solution easier.
Maya Angelou, the American poet, says: “if you don’t like something, change it. if you can’t change it, change your perspective.”
When we are upset, we eat, sleep, and move less. We feel defeated. This way, the problem overcomes us, not the opposite.
It’s better to stay in your natural schedule. Sleep well, eat healthy food, and drink enough water. Body health helps your mind to be healthy.
Write your choices
Prepare a list of the pros and cons of your workplace, boss, and colleagues. When you do, you can solve your problem faster and feel more self-confident.
See whether you want this job for the future or not? Does this problem matter to you in the next five years? Maybe you get used to exaggerating things and imagining the worst. Fewer problems have a permanent effect. Be strong and believe that the issue ahead of you is not as terrible as you think.
If you get into the conclusion of leaving your job, consider new ones, new skills and don’t forget to take a risk. Such as:
For my future job
For this city’s weather
Because of the dreams I have
Because I fancy it
For the high salary of this job
Because I improve so much in this job, I think I am capable of doning
The bigger your list is; the less limitation you have to decide.
Examples of not deciding and continue in your previous job:
I have chosen this.
Because I am tired of this city
Because I don’t like this subject and work at all
Since I don’t have energy many days
Since I haven’t had any improvements
Work professionally and show how you value your boss and colleagues. Never let favoritism affects the way you work.
Be friendly and respect the person whom your boss is interested in.
Usually, it’s not your colleagues that cause this special attention.
Think positively and eagerly. If you let negative thoughts change you, they reduce the quality of your work.
If your boss shows favoritism, wait. Your boss may understand that paying attention to all employees is beneficial for his company. Then he seeks for another person to pay attention to. Try to work so well that you will be next.
Try to improve the situation.
If the boss ignores you and the favoritism is intense, try to improve your relationships. Meet your boss many times. Make sure you deserve the promotion. Talk to your colleagues about it. If most of you have the same idea, your boss hears you.
Control your feelings
Control your feelings to be able to step on the right path. If you control your emotions while talking to the person who makes you angry, he will be the bad person, not you.